Couples Therapy
Now is the time
Relationships face a huge amount of pressure from common life events such as marriage, children, illness, bereavements, wider family influences and financial difficulties. Even happy events can impact once easy relationship dynamics.
Relationships can also face specific problems, such as infidelity, loss of trust, psychosexual problems, loss of desire, loss of connection and intimacy, arguments, breakdowns in communication, differences in opinion and life goals.
Couples therapy can help facilitate more effective communication between partners, resolve conflicts, foster mutual respect of differing perspectives and provide insight on individual emotional experiences influential to the couple relationship. Therapy can help couples regain connection and overcome barriers to intimacy.
Often couples come to therapy as a last resort to save their relationship or to gain clarity on the prospect of separation and for mediation if and when that has been decided. But therapy can also help couples with satisfactory relationships deepen their connection and prepare for big changes such as starting a legal partnership, or a family.
I offer therapy for couples both in-person and online.
Influences
I draw on multiple evidence based theoretical and therapeutic influences in my work and integrate these to meet the needs of each couple. Part of this work includes offering couples sessions and one-to-one sessions with individual members of a couple.
Attachment Theory
Attachment theory explains how the quality of early relationships with primary caregivers significantly impacts future emotional bonds. In couples therapy, understanding the early attachments of each couple member provides understanding of their needs, expectations and ways of resolving conflict.
Neuroscience
Understanding how the brain is activated during conflict can provide insight in how to self-regulate strong emotional responses and to understand your partner's emotional reactions. Therapeutic interventions including psycho-education, breath-work, couple touch and mindfulness. These practices work to integrate brain activation, manage responses and develop a sense of connectedness with your partner in stressful moments.
Differentiation Theory
Differentiation theory is the ability of individuals within a couple to maintain a clear sense of self while remaining emotionally connected to each other. Therapy helps members of the couple distinguish their own individual thoughts, feelings and values from those of their partner and encourages the acceptance of the other, allowing for healthier communication and team work toward shared and individual goals.
Contact me
I offer in-person sessions in private rooms in Central London and online sessions on different days and times across the week. Please contact me for more information.